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Friday, November 11, 2016

First Communion Dresses for the Daughter That I Didn't Have

When I was younger and making plans for the future, I have always imagined myself as having a family and being the mother of a daughter. All women in my family had daughters. My maternal grandmother had two daughters and a son. My paternal grandmother had two sons and a daughter. My mom had two daughters. My sister has a daughter and a son. My aunts have both daughters and sons. So I always imagined myself as a future mother of a daughter. It seemed genetically natural to me that God would gift me with a daughter, just like He did to all the other women in my family. 

Then I started my own family and became pregnant. My wish was to have a daughter, a little girl whom I would have named Laura. I meant to name her after the Godmother to be, a close friend of mine whose name is Laura and who agreed to become my child’s Godmother when the time for christening came. At the beginning of my pregnancy, I was hoping it would be a girl. I liked to imagine the shopping sprees that I would do for my little girl, buying her colorful dresses and cute skirts. I liked to imagine how I would dress her up for parties and events. I liked to imagine how she would have a long beautiful hair, and how I would style her hair in girly braids tied with frilly bows every day. I wanted her to be my little fashionista, my little princess. I wanted to express my fashion style not only with my own clothes, but also by dressing up my daughter.

However, as my pregnancy developed, my instincts were telling me otherwise – it would be a boy, and not a girl. I could tell it would be a boy. My body could tell it would be boy. All my guts were telling me it would be a boy. And because I wanted to have a daughter, I was trying to ignore my instincts and I was hoping that by some miracle it could be a girl. When I was four months pregnant, I had my first ultrasound and I wanted to find out the sex of the baby, but the results of the ultrasound were inconclusive, so I had to wait for another month and for another ultrasound to find out the sex of the baby. When I was five months pregnant, I went for the second ultrasound. I hoped up until the very last moment that maybe it would be a girl, even though all my instincts were telling me it would be a boy. Moms always know, even when they don’t want to admit that they know. Finally, it was the day of the ultrasound, and I was very impatient to know – is it a boy, is it a girl? Is it a little prince, is it a little princess? Turned out, it was a boy, and so Alex came into my life. My husband John was very happy to learn we were going to have a son. I wanted a daughter, and he wanted a son, so the good news here was that at least one of us would have been extremely happy to learn the results of the ultrasound and the sex of the baby.

By the time Alex was born, four months later, I had already gotten used to the idea that I would have a son, and not a daughter, and I welcomed him into my life with all my love, just like I would have done with a daughter, with Laura. If I had a daughter, she would have been seven years now. It would have been time for her first communion, and I would have looked for beautiful first holy communion dresses for my daughter. Recently I became aware of a British online shop, Aisle Style, that offers high quality custom-made communion dresses for girls. I browsed the website, and I saw some amazing white communion dresses, which I would like to share with you today. The girls who model the communion dresses on the Aisle Style website look like veritable little princesses. Looking at those photos with girls wearing first communion dresses, I couldn’t help but imagine my own daughter that I didn’t have, my Laura, coming of communion age and wearing one of these dresses for her first holy communion.
Communion dress, see it here
Communion dress, see it here
Communion dress, see it here
Communion dress, see it here
Communion dress, see it here
Communion dress, see it here
Photo credit: Courtesy of AisleStyle.co.uk

48 comments:

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    1. Thank you GRace for your comment, great seeing you.
      Enjoy your weekend!

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      Sa ai un weekend frumos!

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  3. Very nice dresses for girls:D

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      Have a great weekend!

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    1. Hi Kathy, thanks for stopping by.
      Have a great week ahead!

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  6. pretty wedding dresses *_*
    follow each other via gfc and instagram?
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    1. Hi there, thank you very much for your kind words, really appreciate it. Thank you for reading the story, I'm glad you like it. Good luck to you too and kisses from Toronto! Thanks for letting me know about your blog, I'll check it out.
      Cheers,

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    1. Thank you for visiting, please come again. :)
      I hope you also had a great weekend!

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  9. Such a nice dresses. Beautiful <3 <3

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    1. Hi Amra, thank you for stopping by and for leaving a comment.
      Have a great week ahead!

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  10. I am not baptised. My parents belive that religion is a choice and not something you impose to a child. However I have to admit that the girls look super cute on these dresses :) great choices ♥

    I'm following your blog, it's amazing! ANd i'd love if you could follow me too :)


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    1. Sounds like a valid point, I understand your parents' choice.
      As it happens, I am baptized, and so is my son. But if I were to decide that I wanted to change my religion at some point in time in my adult life, then I guess I could. :)

      Thanks for following, we have already been following each other for a while. :)

      Have a fabulous week!

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    1. Thank you Sarah for stopping by, I'm glad you like the story.

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  12. Such a nice story,Victoria.Alex have nice name,too :)
    Pretty choice of dresses!
    Kisses!
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    1. Hi Maja, thank you for reading, appreciate it. Great seeing you again, thanks for stopping by and for leaving a comment.
      Please come again and have a great week!
      Xoxo,

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    1. Hi there, thank you for visiting.
      Enjoy your week!

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  14. Lovely story, Victoria and beautiful dresses, they looks like little princess.
    xox
    Lenya
    FashionDreams&Lifestyle

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    1. Hi Lenya, thank you for stopping by, always appreciate your comments. Thanks for reading the story, I'm glad you like it. The dresses are beautiful indeed, I like the first one the most. And the girls also look so darling, don't they. :)
      Have a great week ahead sweetheart! Hope to see you again soon.

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  15. Great selection

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      Xoxo,

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  16. Hey Victoria, Beautiful dresses, and nicely written in your true to heart style!I always enjoy your writing.

    Your Alex is an amazing young man - just remember you only have a few more cuddly years before he goes all teenager on ya :) :)

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    1. Hi Alex, great seeing you, thanks for stopping by. I'm glad you like the story.
      And you're absolutely right about my Alex, I'm kind of scared of that time when it comes. :))))
      Talk to you soon,

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  18. LOL we made the same post! Have a nice day sweetie!!

    PS: Do you want to follow each other? Let me know! ;)
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    1. Hi Mary, thank you for your comment.
      Yes I would like to, I'll check out your blog.
      Thanks and have a nice day too!

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  19. First communion is a very important event for Christians. The dresses are really nice. Thanks for sharing :)
    xo
    Sauniya | Find Your Bliss ♡

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    1. Hi Sauniya, great seeing you, thank you for your comment. I agree, it is an important event!
      Have a great day and hope to see you again soon,

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  22. Ohhh pretty dresses! I love the post!*
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  23. I loved your story. Hopefully it's not too late for you to have a daughter and that dream of having one become a reality. Beautiful princess dresses!

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    1. Hi Radi, great seeing you, thanks for reading the story and for your kind words, I'm glad you like it.
      Have a great weekend and please come again!

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